16 July, 2019 - Tuesday

Decency and Bashfulness

sadi-arslanDecency, literally, is a legitimate nice view which should be reflected in behaviour. In other words, it can be defined as a viable act in accordance with social norms or good morals, kindness. Decency, as the word come to meaning of shame and can be described as refraining from acting against the rules. Another definition of decency is to live according to the commandments of Allah. Haya, the sense of shame and pain is to avoid embarrassing situations and a desire to leave the menial nafs. There are numerous verses about decency in Qur’an. Some of them are as follows;
“And be moderate in your pace and lower your voice; indeed, the most disagreeable of sounds is the voice of donkeys” Lokman-19.
“O you who have believed, do not enter houses other than your own houses until you ascertain welcome and greet their inhabitants. That is best for you; perhaps you will be reminded” Nur-27.
“O you who have believed, when you are told, “Space yourselves” in assemblies, then make space; Allah will make space for you. And when you are told, “Arise,” then arise; Allah will raise those who have believed among you and those who were given knowledge, by degrees. And Allah is Acquainted with what you do” Mücadele-11.
Our Prophet (s.a.w) emphasized the importance of having bashfulness by saying that the bashfulness is part of faith. In addition to that he (s.a.w) said that, “If you have no bashfulness, then do whatever you wish” so, he expressed that the main factor which can prevent a person from doing bad actions is bashfulness. Indeed, we can expect everything from those who lost bashfulness curtain. That curtain prevents his owner from doing bad actions and evils. Maulana says on the subject; “Those who are deprived of decency are not human. The difference between human and animal is decency. Open your eyes and pay attention to the word of God. Verse, verse, the meaning of the whole Qur’an is decency”
Lokman Hakim was asked “from whom did you learn decency” he replied “from indecent”. Here it is understood that bad habits and behaviours are followed by others. Especially, it should not be forgotten that our children watch us and follow all of our actions, therefore, as Bektashism points to, we should “control our hands, tongue and waist”. Indeed, if it is considered carefully, it can be seen that the negative words and behaviour take place through our limbs. So, it is not coincidence that our prophet said that ‘ Whoever can guarantee to me what is between his two lips and what is between his two legs, I can guarantee for him Paradise’.
Happy blessed Friday to you all and see you next week insAllah.